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22 August 2010 @ 09:17 pm
It's quelonzia's birthday today.

I was doing okay. I was carefully not thinking about it. I cleaned the bathroom, I finished my laundry, I started straightening up my room ... .

... and I found the present that I'd bought for her, back in January, and was saving for her birthday.

For today.

We haven't spoken since she told me she was seeing a lawyer. Everyone I've spoken to has said that, at this point, our communications should just be through the lawyers.

I am probably skirting the spirit of that by posting this publicly, though I don't know if she's even reading my LiveJournal anymore.

Please know that when I say "Happy Birthday", I mean it sincerely, my love.

Please know that I didn't call because I didn't want to make you sad, didn't want to ruin your birthday, and because I knew that there was no way I could wish you a happy birthday without sounding mean or bitter.

And I hope this doesn't do that.

I just wanted you to know that I was thinking about you.

Be well.

silussa on August 23rd, 2010 11:51 pm (UTC)
Whether to speak only through the lawyers or not depends on several factors, the biggest probably being how hostile (or not) the divorce is going to be.

Yes, the legal advice is to let the hired hounds of hell bay at each other. But then, both marriage and divorce are much more then just legal situations.